Dear Shopaholic



Before adding to your wardrobe, evaluate what's in it. Many women have wardrobes filled with items that were 'too much of a good deal to pass by' that still have tags attached. Add those to the 'if I lose 10lbs I'll fit into that' and you have an overflowing wardrobe! A good rule of thumb is, if you haven't worn it for one year, it shouldn't be in your closet. Items in good condition can be taken to consignment stores or auctioned online with Ebay. While you may not get back what you paid out, it's something and will give you a bit of fun money to shop with soon.

Set a monthly or yearly clothing budget...and stick to it.
If you have friends, family or work colleagues with similar clothing sizes, tastes and/or budgets, why not arrange a clothing swap party? Each guest can bring with them a few items of clothing that they can exchange with other guests. Not only will this trade enhance your wardrobe, it will allow you the chance to mix with friends you may not see very often.

Before buying an item of clothing, do your research! Don't just head to the mall with your credit card and buy, buy, buy. Look the item up on the internet to see how much it's being sold for. Many online retailers, catalogue companies and outlets sell items at a reduced rate. Not only will you save money this way, you'll avoid the lines at the checkout too!

Just before you head to the checkout with any purchase, ask yourself 'Is this necessary?' If you can't say yes, then you're best placing the item back on the rack.

Keep your lifestyle in mind when you're purchasing clothes. Most people wear only 25% of their wardrobe regularly. If on a day-to-day basis you dress in jeans and a t-shirt, there seems little point in having 20 dresses in your closet.

Don't go overboard. Rather than buy a brand new set of clothes each season or year, try to update the items you have already. Add accessories such as jewellery, handbags, scarves and hats to keep your look up to date.

Go 'au naturel'. Natural fibers are always in fashion and they last longer too! Investing in linen and wool items is always a good idea.

Does the item pass the comfort test? Buy clothes because of how they fit, not because of the size on the label. If they aren't comfortable, pass them by. Purchasing them will only mean you've wasted your cash.

Keep it basic and flattering. Purchasing classic styles that flatter your figure is more important than following a (possibly unflattering) trend. Trends come and go, but classics should make up your staple wardrobe. To keep your look updated, use accessories to keep up-to-date with trends.

Keep coordinated. Ensure any new items of clothing you buy will work with items you already have in your wardrobe. I tend to stick to a small palette of colours to keep it simple.

Washing instructions aren't just to be read on laundry day. Before buying an item, find out how it's cleaned. Do your best to avoid dry clean only items as these will be more expensive to clean.

Thrift shops, consignment stores, flea markets, garage sales and online auctions are loaded with great clothing finds - at great prices. If your budget is tight but you prefer designer labels, you might find yourself a bargain and a fun day of treasure hunting.

Wholesalers are also worth considering if you have friends also interested in saving money. Items such as childrens clothing, underwear, socks and scarves are good purchases to make in this way. Your cost per item is reduced by buying in bulk.



How to Deal With Losing a Friend


Steps

1. Take time to mourn over your loss. This is a big change in your daily life to not have that friend as a part of it. Cry, scream into a pillow, shout, hit the pillow, play the music at its loudest possible. Do whatever it takes to get the sadness, rage, anger, disappointment etc. out of your system. Let it out so that you can move on from these destructive feelings and so that you can cease to harbor negativity that you will continue to carry if you do not release it.

2. Find a new hobby, activity or regular social event. Don't sit around and sob incessantly. Do something proactive and lively to distract your mind and soul. Quit moping and resume your path in life. Go shopping, treat yourself to an ice cream at your local restaurant, or go and play a sport. Take up a hobby or set yourself a challenge, such as a 5000 piece jigsaw or beating the computer at a game of chess.

3. Join a club. You will meet lots of new people and get heaps of new friends instantly.

4. Find a new friend. There is always someone new. Talk to people around school, college, work or your neighborhood. Talk to people that you have never really talked to before and you may be pleasantly surprised. Be nice and friendly, but don't be overly friendly the first time you approach them. Just go up and say "Hi" or something, and try to act casually. If you start talking to each other, don't act too eager to be friends too quickly. Just be yourself and stay casual. And take it calmly and slowly - simply because you have lost one friend doesn't mean you should rush out and find another replacement. Friendship develops over time and needs careful choices and good tending.

5. Avoid spending time thinking of ways to make your former friend jealous. This will only make you look sad and desperate and it only ever rebounds on yourself. Revenge fantasies might amuse your sorrowful side but they are a pure waste of energy and dig a deeper level of sadness and inaction for you. See step 1 again if you find yourself falling into this trap.

6. Keep a casual relationship with your former friend. When you see your former friend around, don't be sour or nasty. If he or she talks to you, don't ignore your former friend. Just say hi back and if you still don't want to have a long conversation, be polite and just excuse yourself. Having an appointment or a homework assignment to complete are good enough excuses.

7. Don't spread rumours about the person, or talk about them to everyone. Nobody will want to be your friend if they discover that you talk about people behind their backs.

8. Smile! Find things to smile about. Do something for someone, raise money for charity by doing a sponsored run, do things that make you happy again. Realize that you don't need this person to make you happy, and it is not the end of the world now that they have gone. It is one of life's lessons and there should be a kernel of wisdom in what happened for you to learn from.

9. Get on with your life. This is the most important lesson. Don't stop going out with other friends, or take it out on them. Carry on as if everything is normal, and it will feel normal. Soon you will forget all about this person, or at least, be able to think of them without bitterness or sadness.

10. Remember that with every ending, there is a new beginning. That means, there's time to get your life going in the direction you want. Pamper yourself and hang out with new interesting people.

Tips

1. Don't let this friend know that you are upset because then he/she might think he/she has won. Or, your former friend may simply be irritated to think you still harbor a desire for friendship with them and may be provoked into spreading malicious gossip about you.

2. If you are nice to everyone, everyone will want to be your friend!
Don't let this person think that you are letting yourself go because you two aren't friends anymore. This is immature and self-destructive behavior that only impacts you and your future prospects for other friendships. People do not turn around and rescue wallowers, so try not to hold on to such a fantasy.

3. Stay strong! If what this person did was bad, don't accept them back as a friend. If he or she begs or promises to be a good friend, stay firm unless you think this person has really changed or you feel it would be wrong not to. Don't be weak, you will just look and be treated like a doormat!

4. If it really will, then make friends with them again. If the fight was silly and you feel it was, it is possible they are too. Start out by apologizing a few days after the fight and then leave them alone. Do not retaliate. If they say no, you will know you did everything you could.

Film School

It's not just educational institutions that teach us lessons. Life itself is the biggest educator of all, but it can't be denied that with a powerful combo of images, stories, acting, and even memorable music, movies can be great teachers that leave a lasting impression. Here are some of life lessons from films.

1. Poetry is powerful.

2. There is significance in small tasks.

3. Persistence pays.

4. Success without love is incomplete.

5. Take a chance on life.

6. Imagination is better than knowledge.

7. Don't plan, live in the present.

8. Who needs a hero?

Rambut Sihat Sebalik Tudung

Setelah seharian bertudung, rambut kamu mungkin meleper dan melekap di kepala. Revive semula maya rambut dengan syampu dan helah ini.

Langkah 1: Semburkan pangkal rambut dengan air dan urut serta kirai supaya ia "berdiri" semula.

Langkah 2: Tunduk dan sikat lembut secara terbalik.

Langkah 3: Guna syampu yang mampu bersihkan kulit kepala dan buat rambutmu tampak lebih bermaya.

Biskut Coklat


BAHAN:
200 gram - bijirin coklat (boleh digantikan dengan perisa lain)
100 gram - coklat masakan

CARA:
1. Cairkan coklat di dalam bekas yang ditenggek atas periuk berisi air mendidih mengikut kaedah double boiling.

2. Apabila coklat sudah cair, alih dan sejukkan seketika.

3. Setelah ia sejuk, gaulkan bijirin ke dalamnya. Gunakan sudu kecil dan bentukkan adunan di atas dulang.

4. Biarkan ia keras dengan sendiri.

10 Petanda Si Dia Tak Serius Denganmu

1. Setiap kali si dia menjawab panggilan dari kamu pasti dia akan merengus dan berkata, "Huh, apa hal? Kalau tak penting sangat tak payah la call!".

2. Dia akui mempunyai tabiat buruk iaitu cepat lupa dengan perkara remeh. Contohnya, nama kamu. Teruk betul.

3. Apabila bertemu, si dia akan bertanya khabar namun belum pun sempat kamu nak menjawab soalannya, dia dah sumbat telinganya dengan earphone iPod.

4. Kalian memesan makanan dan si dia mengingatkan kamu untuk bayar bil di restoran segera secara berasingan.

5. Jarang benar si dia menghubungi kamu. Harapkan SMS sajalah. Itupun selepas setengah malam - kalau dia ingat.

6. Si dia selalu mengacah nak menduakan kamu dengan teman karibmu yang cantik bagaikan seorang model itu.

7. Si dia memutuskan hubungan sebaik sahaja kamu berdua menyambut hari lahirmu atau hari kekasih. Malah, siap pesan denganmu supaya jangan bersedih pula.

8. Setiap kali diajak keluar, pelbagai alasan diberikan oleh si dia. Antaranya, dia terpaksa bekerja hingga lewat malam.

9. Si dia terlampau mengagumi dan mengetahui secara mendalam latar belakang jurulatih gimnya yang juga seorang lelaki. Patutlah excited sangat pergi gym setiap hari.

10. Mukanya berubah masam jika terserempak dengan kamu. Kadang² boleh menyorok pula kalau kamu tak perasan kelibatnya.

Talk Therapy

Nothing hurts more than discovering you're being talked about behind your back - especially if what's being said is untrue, malicious, or damaging to your reputation. A certain amount of harmless gossip is simply human nature - and we've all been on both ends of it. But what about when idle chat turns nasty? Spreading rumours, divulging secrets, and violating other's privacy certainly crosses the line and perpetuates a vicious cycle. Since gossip is usually at its apex in high school or college, pick up some pointers on how to deal with it. Top tip? The less you engage in trash-talking others, the less they'll talk about you. Words to live by.

Over-sharing Personal Details Again?



Often find yourself confessing personal issues? That's a good thing, but only to a certain point. Women often over-share to try to connect with others or for some attention. If you feel regret later, you may be telling too much. Ask yourself if you really want this person to know what you're about to say and what she'd say about you to others. Imagine bumping into her a little later - if she was indeed the right confidante, you won't cringe.

Love The Body

WISHING FOR A SMALLER BUM, OR GISELE'S HEIGHT? STOP WISHING AND BE GRATEFUL FOR THE SKIN YOU'RE IN, AS IT COULD VERY WELL SAVE YOUR LIFE.

Body wish #1: Light-coloured eyes.
Wish not, why? Darker eyes have more melanin, a pigment that blocks the sun's harmful UV radiation. This means that darker brown-eyes girls stand a better chance against developing ocular melanoma, a type of eye cancer. Try coloured contact lenses if you must.

Body wish #2: Less junk in your trunk.
Wish not, why? If you are booty-blessed, find solace in the fact that your bigger bum protects you against type 2 diabetes. The experts believe that the type of fat that accumulates on your bum and thighs produces substances that improve the body's ability to process sugar.

Body wish #3: Long limbs.
Wish not, why? So you're not towering like Gisele, but guess what? You'll have less chances of ticker troubles. Women shorter than five feet five inches (165.1 cm) have a more efficient heart against disease. Nonetheless, tiny or tall, you should eat fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids.

Find Your Best Light

To apply make-up well, it's best to do it under a natural source. This is because it lights up every corner of your face, allowing you to apply your make-up evenly and with a lighter hand as colours appear better. When applying make-up in dim light, shadows are cast on the face therefore you have a tendency to overdo it.

However at night, when you can't order the sun to come out, you can mimic natural light with the help of frosted bulbs as they give off light that is soft and warm. Stay clear of fluorescent lights as the bluish-greenish tones make imperfections stand out. Get yourself a pair of clamp lights (from lighting or furniture shops like IKEA) which you can attach to both side of your medicine cabinet or dressing table. Adjust it so that the light falls on and shows off every inch of your skin - no feature should be left in the shadow.